Did you ever feel that it would take you a million years to get married? Now you have found your perfect soul mate the man you love, things should be rosy ~ but everyone in your life is making the year before you get married a nightmare. It is not being about a “bridezilla” it is about you and wanting it right on your special day. I had my own story, my sister decided since she was larger than the rest of the girls she wanted a different dress. When that was not acceptable in my book, she went behind my back and took a slimming one piece dress had it cut into 2 pieces and poof she looked like an elephant with her gut hanging out. To this day my mother still defends her actions, and tells me I was being selfish. I have wedding pictures to prove this was not a good idea. We all know a monochromatic dress with a tapered waist and looser bottom is about as flattering a style as you are going to get for an overweight female. I should know I was what you would call “plus size” a good part of my 30’s. A two piece outfit with a very short front top that does not cover a large stomach is just not good. My friends this is your wedding celebrate your spirit and individuality. This day is about you, and your choices. It will be the day you remember for the rest of your marriage. Good years or bad, if you let someone change that vision there vision is what you will always remember as not having been your vision.

I still remember my brazen decision to fire the florist two weeks before the wedding he just could not get it after five months. I wanted a certain color and an exotic feel; he kept showing me red carnations and roses. End result flowers from the local gourmet shop that came from flowers around the world, at half the cost. Since they were a chain of stores they had the buying power to bring in gorgeous deep magentas and burgundy fall colors – black beauty roses, names of flowers I never even heard of birds of paradise oranges, the most stunning colors and buds, people did not stop raving. The centerpieces were all taken, and people were actually fighting who gets to go home with the flowers. A wedding guest sent me pictures after of the centerpieces in there home. When have you ever seen that happen at a wedding? My point I could have stayed with him, and been safe ~ mom was losing it- telling me I was out of my mind. I love to hear stories of triumph please reply to this blog post!